What keeps you from getting the love and intimacy you want in life? Dianne, a lovely, soft spoken school teacher of twenty five years, came to see me when she first sensed the disconnect in her marriage of thirty years. Ken, Dianne’s husband was a … Read more
Do you sometimes wonder if you’re making a difference while living your one beautiful and precious life? It’s time to not only dream and fantasize about the life you want to create fore yourself—but to take action. In the Buddhist understanding the courageous heart is … Read more
Do you ever feel like you’d like to make more of an impact and a bigger difference, but you’re just too exhausted? Without energy and vitality it’s hard to really be there full out for others. Quality self-care is the key to giving wholeheartedly to … Read more
Have you ever wondered what it really means to “keep an open heart?” Sometimes it comes after a good cry or after a moment of deep connection with another or after witnessing an act of pure loving kindness. An open heart is a state of … Read more
Forgiveness turns anger and hurt into healing and inner peace. Forgiveness helps one to overcome feelings of victimization, hurt, anxiety, and rage, along with personal and relational conflicts. It allow us to make the conscious decision to let go of a grudge so we can move forward in our lives.
At times it is easy to assume that you know what your partner of child is about to say, or even to complete their sentences. When you remain open to the possibilities, you may find yourself surprised by the outcome. People feel deeply cared for when they are heard. When listening—pay attention to the words, the body language, the tone of voice, the eye contact. Remember, “tone over content” matters most! That is how something is said matters more than what is said.
Healing from infidelity is difficult and painful work. Infidelity can feel like a traumatic injury in which out entire world view is challenged. While many couples do split up with feelings of rage and hurt after such a betrayal, I’ve seen many couples also choose to work through their problems and restore their trust and love for one another.
All relationships struggle. To love is to at least occasionally engage in conflict. And we all know that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Unfortunately, we often fight the most with the people we love, whether they are our friends, family, or romantic partners. … Read more
What steps can we take to give up a grudge and forgive someone who has hurt, disappointed, or betrayed us? The following strategy model for learning forgiveness is derived from an amalgam of work by several researchers and my own work as a psychologist: 1. … Read more
“To forgive and forget” is a prevailing idiom in our culture, but for most of us it is hard for us to truly let go and move forward in our lives. When dealing with a conflict, we need to let go of a past hurt, … Read more